Surrounded by thousands of differing opinions, I decided to talk with an expert — licensed marriage and family therapistJaynay Johnson。
面对之间的辩论intrinsic versus extrinsic motivations她说，“约翰逊”澄清了：“有研究表明，暗示儿童内在和外在动机的积极和消极方面，”她说。However, "There aren’t many risks [in] providing an allowance for hobbies to children. ... As Destini stated in the video, incentivizing hobbies, passions, and even extra house duties teach children that their time and interests are valuable."
Destini's own reflections on her home's allowance system mirrors Johnson's thoughts on the importance of laying an early foundation. When she was younger, the 28-year-old told BuzzFeed that she was neither given an allowance nor taught how to save. "Money management was a real challenge for me because I never practiced it growing up," Destini said.
Now, in response to commenters who criticize her allowance payments in return for pursing hobbies, Destini said: "I agree, partially. I think that external motivations can be an issue in the long run if they are the focus, but it’s not the focus in our house. We do so much to build her passion outside of the money. We play, flip, stretch, and watch gymnastics all day long. I set up ample opportunities for her to explore gymnastics with zero external reward."
“她不关注钱,但它就像一个backup incentive when she just 'doesn’t feel like it,'" Destini said. "Similarly to how I love my job, but some days I don’t want to go. Some days, my passion isn’t cutting it. On those days, that added incentive of a paycheck gets me through the door."
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